Estimations of want and need

Well by the power of whatever force that governs my mind to write new blogs, I have decided to write a new blog. Anyway today I was walking around this parklands thing, and I just so happened to walk past this couple on the grass, fully on top of each other and most certainly not worried about people seeing their affections towards one another. Now myself being terribly hypocritical, thought this was shocking and appalling. Well, maybe that’s too strong a word. Anyway, it wasn’t something I really wanted to see, and was continuing on my way at a fast strolling pace. Now the person I was with, being in a highly philosophical mood, said something about it to me as we sat down at a bench not too far away. Now I won’t be able to quote it completely, so I am sorry if this comes out differently to how it was told. He’s going to get offended if I call him a colleague or something, well I think he will, anyway, to be safe, lets just call him bob for now.

Bob: You know, its funny, how we do stuff like that
Me: Like those people?
Bob: Yeah, I mean, we just can’t help ourselves, I guess its cause were humans and there are just some things that we cannot get across using words, so we have to use actions instead. I mean you can say you trust someone, but its another thing doing it. Wow, even that sounded philosophical.

Well it wasn’t exactly that, but I can’t remember how it exactly went and there was also a large pause while he found the right words. Anyway, it got me thinking about it. We do all interact on a physical level as well as a emotional level. Actions speak louder then words. For example, a kid can say they will never take a cookie from the cookie jar; but for what they do to be true they must not take a cookie. If they took a cookie, they would have been lying. We use actions to justify what we say, and often need actions for people to believe us. You can’t say something and mean it without justifying it with an action.
Now anyway, back to this couple, and back to what “Bob” was saying. This couple were simply expressing how much they needed each other, or how much they loved each other, depending on what stage of the relationship they were in. Relationships should have 3 levels; emotional, mental and physical. All of these should be satisfied, and if there isn’t some form of balance, it’s not usually the best relationship. Mental and emotional can’t really exist without physical. With some things you need an action to speak for you, as sometimes we cannot communicate what we really want. We need the action to speak for us. For example, it is not enough to say you want someone; this couple had to show they wanted each other. Sometimes we just cannot get something across with words, as actions do a much better job.
However, I would also like to address another issue, mainly to make this blog longer. You see, although this couple showing each other how they feel is nice and all, you know expressing emotions to each other instead of using words, the fact that I have just gone and written a blog about them is another subject. I have automatically assumed something about them. Automatically assumed they are expressing deep emotions. However I did not go and ask them if this was true, nor do I know for a fact this is correct. I am assuming from their actions that what I am saying is correct, though for all I know they could be casual fuck buddies, getting into it before they reach a room. This might also be incorrect, I just don’t know. The thing is, I am just making estimates as to what they are doing.
We as a society assume everything about everyone else. We don’t know if its true, we just seem to all know from one glance at someone exactly what there all about. People see a teenaged guy, for example, and see him with a girl. They immediately assume this guy only wants her for one thing, and is going to completely take advantage of her. The fact of the matter is this may not, and is most likely not true, in most cases, however this older person has given this boy a stereotype which is simply one size fits all. We really need to stop and think, and stop giving people these stereotypes, and assuming things about people. I mean, some people may have gone past this couple and thought the girl was a complete slut. However, she most likely isn’t. However, because we assume this, it immediately becomes true about the person to us. Now she has gained a reputation, which is based simply on the way people saw her in this one moment of her life. We need to stop assuming and start asking. Not always in a literal sense, just that we really need to stop judging before we know the evidence.
Although, I may just be judging everyone too early. Maybe we all just wish we were confident enough to be like that couple. Maybe were all just too jealous to realise.